This morning I saw a teaser/headline about a study that said:”Having kids makes people unhappy”. Between making lunch and a phone call, I was unable to follow the story, but the headline kinda stuck in my head.
Moments later, my 8 year old niece who lives overseas called me. We talk daily and nightly. Some sessions are hilarious, some sessions are stressful I admit. This morning while I was talking to her and watching her on cam while dinner is on-going I witnessed what could be a story line for a reality show or a cartoon maybe. A rather interesting dynamic between her, her brother of 6 years and my sister. My niece doesn’t eat most vegetables and tonight’s menu included string beans. I’m telling you it was a good mix of funny, stressful and frustrating, crying, giggles and a lot of threatening haha. Giggles from the brother, threatening from me, frustration for my sister and crying for the little girl.
Long story short, it was a remote attempt to make her eat the string beans, standing our ground ( her crying did not work) lots of encouragement and cheering and impressive revelation from the youngest brother who for some reason was extra ordinarily cute tonight and displayed wisdom. “How can you say you don’t like string beans when you haven’t even tried it”, “You kept thinking you don’t like string beans, don’t over think it and just bite into it”. That kind of cuteness and wisdom. (My sister’s side remark was funny, too. “Good for you , you have wisdom”.)
Dinner ended and no child was harmed in the process, thankfully. Lol. Everyone was calm and my sister and I started assigning tasks to the kids. “Okay, girl sweep the floor and wipe the table.” The little boy volunteered to do the sweeping and the night ended with “I love yous”, “I am proud of you”. Pat each other in the back, goodnight.
For someone not physically with them, I was tired. Then in my devotion I just started praying and praising the Father for these kids. I told God how it was tiring, frustrating and asked for forgiveness for yelling and just kind of delete any bad impression we might have done in the process of training and disciplining them. While praying and remembering the morning headline, God impressed upon me the following:
- Children are gifts and a blessing from the Lord. NO matter how tiring and frustrating and everything else in between, that is the fact the Lord reiterated in me.
- A baby is a joy. It is one of life’s amazing experience-giving birth to another human being.
- Children are a heritage from the Lord. Inheritance are worth a fortune, they are valuable. They are gems equivalent to precious stones.
True, raising kids entail A LOT! You devote your life and time raising, providing and caring for them. That is parenthood. The responsibility is great but the stress and challenges that come with it should not cloud our judgment and take away the joy from these wonderful, valuable gifts.
Having kids is not just one task on our to-do list. It is a career, it is a lifestyle. We are not equipped with all the necessary skills and that is why we NEED TO PRAY for strength and wisdom and lift the kids to the Lord for protection and guidance.
Start children off on the way they should go,
and even when they are old they will not turn from it.-Proverbs 22:6
- Don’t be lazy to train your kids, they will thank you for it later.
- Don’t just be a friend to your kids, be the disciplinarian and be the adult. Stand your ground, be firm but loving.
- Spoiling them is not gonna be beneficial. Teach them fortitude and make them work for what they need. Make them work harder for what they want.
- Teach them to listen to you, but be the voice of reason and truth.
Pray for them ALL the time. Cry out to God for wisdom and strength.
My nephews and nieces give me joy and stress sometimes lol. I may not have children but I started caring for my siblings at age 5. I grew up learning how to care for another human being early in life. I spent most of my life helping raise my nephews and nieces. It was not easy but it wasn’t that hard either. Our Heavenly Father is our anchor and the source of all strength, wisdom and understanding. It is always rewarding to hear them pray and interact with the Lord. They get the blessing, God gets the glory.
When you think you are helpless and at your wits end and unhappy, you should try God and the bible sometimes. What have you got to lose?