If you are in a healthy and wonderful relationship, I am happy for you. But we’ve all been in a crappy relationship at one point in our lives. Think back and identify what made the relationship fail?
Relationship is hard, any kind. It requires patience and understanding to keep it going. Forging a relationship is time consuming- at work, at home, at school, at church. But it is an investment that can potentially reap you profits if done the right way. But what is the right way?
Some relationships fail because there is no relationship! How is that possible? Any relationship exposes us and our vulnerabilities, and we fear that. When we bring to the relationship the bricks we use to shield us prior and we are impenetrable, the dynamic becomes more of performance rather than nurturing and understanding. “If I do this, maybe she will love me more”, “I’ve given you everything money can buy, what else do you want from me?” Or you may feel good about “working so hard for this family”, but missing out on making memories.
The same way works in our spiritual life. Before knowing the Lord Jesus, I was into rituals and tradition. I thought that doing and being good could earn me my ticket to Heaven. When I felt “dirty” and not measuring up I worked even harder, trying to impress God and keeping a tally sheet of all the good deeds I had done. I felt it was easy to pray scripted prayers for so many times a day. I thought performing rituals made me holier and closer to God. But can you relate when I say, despite the routine the emptiness was still there?
People who claim to know God can’t even vouch for his plan. They don’t even understand the plan. They refuse the relationship yet they want a part of the inheritance.
Using Bill Gates’ software doesn’t make you his business partner. You can’t show up at his mansion one day and say, “dude, where’s my share?” He’d slam the door on you and call security.
Christianity is not based on structured activities, it is based on relationship. God does not honor your good works as ticket to Heaven. He desires to have a relationship with you through Jesus. He fixes broken relationships. You just have to be ready to reconcile.
Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it.