…will break my bones, but words will never hurt me. Really? i don’t believe it. It’s as big as a lie as the hurtful words spoken to me so many years ago.
Embedded in my inner being, some words would re-surface as a lie, to accuse, to condemn and to haunt. Words spoken to me as young as 4 years old still resound today. Those words used to haunt me and condemn me, not that I let those words define me because as far as I can remember, I used to be angry because they were not true. And because hurtful words were spoken by people close to me, it was like a double edged sword. The wound healed but the scar is still there.
Words can define us. Words can make us. Words can break us. Words can kill and words can make us alive. People say stupid things because of ignorance. They say what they say because they want to feel good about themselves at other people’s expense. The label is their own way of masking their own insecurities and shortcomings. Hurtful words that label and brand us can catch on and spread like wildfire.
I was a victim of bullying, and for many years I was afraid to go out and face my “tormentors”. I gave them too much power that, it stifled me for awhile. It was a good number of years- bullying started at age 11, and just went on and on and on. I am still “branded” to this day. It was stupid and yet some people didn’t change and they are still at it.
Words spoken by a family member could also be damaging. Slap or spank me, it might sting but it will go away and be forgotten. Say something hurtful, and it will stay like a parasite-eating your inner being. The worse thing is you get used to the lie and it hardens your heart.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
But there is hope. We don’t have to receive EVERY word we hear. We have the right to reject , in Jesus’ name. Confess, forgive and be released.
Parents have a greater responsibility in shaping their kids. When you speak harshly and profess hurtful words towards them, if nurtured can be very damaging. Spouses say hurtful words against each other that could potentially hurt the relationship. Friends saying things that are untrue against one another could lead to an even greater problem-strained relationship and could to some extent manifest into some form of physical sickness and unhealthy view of one’s self.
Words of life when spoken can grow to encourage, help and support. Speaking blessing instead of curse is like “apples of gold in settings of silver.”
What are the effects of your words? Do they encourage or do they hurt and damage? If we ask the Lord and we repent of all the hurtful and senseless words we said, He is just to forgive us.
I read somewhere that every word we speak floats around us from eternity and beyond. They spread and infect like a virus. If that was true, wouldn’t you speak words of life and blessings for everyone to catch?